Celebrating Teachers

Today is National Teacher's Day so naturally the Big Question for this week is: Who has been your greatest teacher?

I have been lucky to have many great teachers in my life. One of my most memorable teachers was in 3rd grade. Mrs. Kalichstein was fearsome- in fact, I spent the summer before school making myself sick at the thought of having her- and to many students, she was downright mean. However, the stars aligned and she liked me, and I became "teacher's pet." Along with spelling drills that I can still recite today, Mrs. K was instrumental in making me feel self-confident, even though I was the smallest kid in the class. "Good things come in small packages" was her favorite thing to say to me, and it really made a difference in how I viewed myself.

Further along the line is the person who put me on my career path- Professor George Armelagos, medical anthropologist. His perspective on health, disease, and adapting ancient cultural beliefs for contemporary public health issues led me to public health. The rest, as they say, is what happened next.

I would be remiss if I didn't include my wonderful children in this tribute to my important teachers. Not only because they have actually taught me how to do things (like use a computer, or how to navigate social media), but because see the world through them has taught me so much and expanded my thinking in countless ways. 

Thanks to all the amazing teachers out there! 

The Five Pillars of Personal Leadership

"The greatest source of transforming the world is in transforming yourself."

This great quote is from a great podcast I had the opportunity to listen to the other day, with Professor Hitendra Wadhwa of Columbia Business School.  The 17-minute podcast focuses on personal leadership, with an emphasis on the personal qualities needed to become a true leader.

The pillars that Dr. Wadhwa identifies are:

  • Purpose or Drive: what compels you to do what you do -there has to be something that propels you forward;
  • Wisdom or Mastery: what you contribute to the conversation in knowledge, skills, or experience;
  • Interface between you and the world:  the emotional quotient you bring to your work- kindness, empathy, compassion;
  • Self-realization: your core insights - you don't need others' approval because validation comes from within; and
  • Growth: your potential to learn and discover.

There's also a Q+A part of the podcast, where Dr. Wadhwa gets into how someone knows they are a true leader, and how leaders keep growing (hint: surround yourself with inspiration). 

A final insight: positive change in your self and your relationships creates a concurrent change in structures. So if you are looking to create a great organization, look inside first.

Enjoy listening to the podcast, and please be in touch if I can help you become a better leader!

That Moment When Everything Changed

I'm sure we've all had this experience, though we may not have known it at the time it was happening. It's the moment when you did something, felt something, went through something that made you a different person. Your pivotal moment.

For many people I know, they'd say it was when they were told, "You have cancer." For some, it's when they met their life partner or became a family. For others, it happened upon reaching a particular milestone or goal. Or all of those things. The best thing about a pivotal moment- I think- is that you can have more than one pivotal moment in your life.

For me, everything changed in September of 1973 when I walked through the doors of Stuyvesant High School as a high school freshman. For those who don't know about Stuyvesant, it is an elite school in NYC, for which you have to pass an entrance exam. I was a better-than-average student when I took the exam, but I never thought I'd get in. When I did, there was no question in my mind that I would attend, even though it meant an hour-long subway commute. I even convinced my parents not to move to Long Island so I could go. 

I knew, somehow, that those four years would be pivotal. And they were, for many reasons. Most important for me was meeting friends from all over NYC, many of whom I am still close with, and being challenged by others even smarter than I was.  Although the work was often difficult, I never regretted my decision, and I am certain it was formative for me.

So that's my pivotal moment. What's yours? 

Je Regrette Rien

"One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself."  Shannon L. Alder

Are there professional and personal situations I could have handled better? Of course. Are there people I wish I would have treated differently along the way? Most certainly. But I'm pretty satisfied with how my life has turned out. I can't say that I have no regrets, but I definitely don't live my life looking in the rearview mirror. I look at those missteps as learning experiences and try not to repeat them. 

How about you? What are your greatest regrets?

 

The Most Important Question

OK, here we go. It's almost the end of February and I've been asking some Big Questions. This week's is : What is the most important question you have ever asked yourself?

This is a tough one for me to answer. I ask myself a lot of questions, all the time. Most of them are rhetorical (Are you serious? What am I doing here?).  But one of the more common questions I ask myself is: What will I learn from this? Sometimes I ask this question before I decide whether or not to do something, and sometimes it's used as an evaluation tool. Success or failure, it's important for me to figure out what the experience has taught me.

How about you? What important questions do you ask yourself? I really want to know! 

 

What Inspires You?

This week's Big Question is: What (or who) inspires you? What makes it possible for you to hop out of bed each day, ready to do what you do?

For me, it's my clients. Through listening to them, observing them, and helping them I am motivated to keep doing what I've chosen to do. It's a constant reinforcement of why I decided to become a consultant and focus on the specific needs of smaller organizations. 

The leaders of these organizations are not just my clients- they have become my friends and colleagues. Their passion and dedication to making their communities better is all the inspiration I need.

Huge thanks to all of the wonderful people I have had the honor to work with! 

Lessons Learned?

This week we have a double whammy for you: two Big Questions to ask yourself.

Question number 1: What was the most important lesson you learned in 2017?  For me, it was that I am a resilient person. I wrote a blog about this back in September. I'm looking forward to seeing where this new understanding can lead me.

Question number 2 is: By the end of this year, what do you hope to know more about?  In my professional life, I hope to learn more about my clients (and potential clients) and how I can best help them. In my personal life, I'd like to know more about what the important questions are for me, and possibly get on the path to answering them.

I want to hear what you think about these two questions! Please be in touch. 

Life's Big Questions

For the next few posts, I'm going to do something I've never done before-  focus on a theme. I'm calling it "Life's Big Questions," and, like many things in my life, it is inspired by Oprah. Specifically, the January 2018 issue of O Magazine, which is all about asking yourself the right questions and where the answers can lead you. I am intrigued by the prospect of doing this as both a way to dig deeper within myself as well as learn how the process might work for my clients.

So the first question is "Am I fulfilling my potential?"

I'm going to be asking more big questions in the coming weeks, and I'm looking forward to sharing them (and the answers) with you. Please share yours with me, too!